Sharing common dialogs across applications

[C++ Programming]

We have several exes that need access to common dialogs for database administration on common tables. Dialogs need access to a database via ADO/ODBC and user interface. We have in the past recreated the same dialog repeatively. Getting tired of doing that. Would like to create for each dialog an EXE/DLL or something that we can link at runtime in case of changes. A DLL looks like the best way. Any BOOKS or PUBLICATIONS out there to exactly guide us from creating , calling from current EXEs, and distribution? Really need step by step not just a reference document. Would just creating an EXE for each dialog and shell execute would work? Pros / cons.

thank you